Supprting my son wth advice

Hi folks .
My son is 24 years old with a child that's 6 years old .
He has been struggling most of his life with a learning disability.
started out with speech imparement along with his son who has the same thing.
As well as low self of steam and confidents
like lots of people decided to try out drugs with his baby's mother unfortunately
he has a addicting personality she doesn't .
unfortunately they ended up slitting up when there child was 1.5 years old
With in the past 5 years he has gotten the help to get clean and has been doing great .
There for the mother of the child would back off but now that the drugs is out of the way
she is slandering him over child support.
Yes I realize its not easy to raise a child on your own without support however because
we live across the street from his school he offer to have him stay here and take the child to school.
That was a huge NO so she sends him to her parents across town at 7:30 pm and her dad takes him to school.
My son has bent over backwards to help her in anyway possible and has given her money when he could. that still wasn't good enough the slandering and try to keep the child away from him continues
Finally I asked her kindly believe it or not to stop and pointed out what he has done for her and that
was a huge NO as well
Having my family fed up with all the hassles there end up being a text message dispute between her
and another member of the family. this had nothing to do with the child and his father but she still
desided to punish both.
Any ideas how this can be prevented its so unfair to the child that loves to be with his dad.
Been to court lots of times but of course she doesn't stay because her lawyer is there and my son can't legal aid because he lives at home and that's how she all ways gets her own way.
my son gives in so he have  his visits at least until she gets angry again

Disrespect from family

For the past year its been up and down like a yoyo .
found out I have fibromyalgia after 10 years of on going pain and other issues.
Tried to explain to my family the reasons for me not being able to do the tasks
I used to due to the pain I go through on a daily basis.
Thinking since they were all adults now they would understand .
Was I fooled my youngest which is 19 has been very cooperative however the
other 2 its been a struggle there 30 and 21 .
I could really handle some advice as specially with the 30 year old .
He holds a major grudge against me for quite some time .
I have bent over backwards for him all his life until he got into drugs
and became very selfish. It seems like the older he gets the worse he treats
everyone including his own family
I know he is not happy and hasn't been for along time but he can only fix that
I cant and he expects me to perform miracles I listen give advise however he wont take it
He would rather argue and treat everyone like shit including his son that is 9 years old
we all get called some pretty nasty names just for saying the word sorry no I cant his behaviour
has a huge impact on his son but his son is medicated for anger and a few other issues that is caused
by that kind of behaviour . I try to take his son as often as I can because of that but now that im limited I cant as often as I used to so now im a looser,bitch and a few other names he has even told me im dead to him so I gave up trying hope its not a mistake I do love him just cant take the abuse he hands out The C.A.S has been notified several times about the yelling and screaming constantly and does absolutely nothing about it blames it all on the child because of his issues caused by the parents
The bottom line is he is extremely jelouse over his younger brothers and his son
My 21 year old is slowly coming around he has started to talk respectful to me now but still refuses to help around the house unless I pay him he says the same thing as his dad my expectation are to high not sure how they think that all I expect is for them to clean up there own messes by putting there garbage in the garbage and do dishes theres only 3 people that lives here now
I don't expect them to clean up after the animals or vacume anything like that
So if you read this and give me some advise I would appreciate it or you are going through the same thing please reply or comment below this behaviour has taken a real tole on me

Fathers And The Court system

Today was another day at the courthouse for father and son access.
This has been going on now for 2 yrs where the mother screws the father and gets away with it .
There has been several court dates from the time this started and still going on.
The mother of the child has only shown up 2 for court and gets away with it because her lawyer
shows up however its happened so many times if the father doesnt show up the mother allways win her case how does that work
The father was allso refused legail aid do to the fact he atleast has accsess even though the mother is trying to take that away i cannot believe how this court system works its so unfare
Everytime we go to court they say to do something else mean while the mother started all this
because she was very angry so now the child and the father has to suffer and the courts seems
to think thats ok whatever happen to in the best interest of the child.
I think they should rephrase it to what moms want
I understand having supervised visits if its necessary but in this case it isnt
the mother just wants to be in control and doesnt want the father to have the bond he could have with his son it all comes down to jealousy
In the past 2yrs the father has tried to go infront of a judge and they allways find away to remand it and today basicaly told him he doesnt have a chance so what to do from there dont know
would love to have some advise

Babies having babies

Tried to convince my middle son not to rush into realtionships time and time again
Unfortunatly didnt listen .
First of all the stayed at a memeber of the families house and before i knew it his girlfriend was pregnat
Neither one of them had jobs or a income .Needless to say i wasnt very happy with the circumstances
She and her parents were not speaking and hadnt spoke in 2 yrs she was staying with her aunt so i was told
to this day i still dont know
Anyways because i am a carring mother i took her in under my wing and supported both her and my son
I went to her DR. apointments i did everything for her durring her pregnancy and after
Finaly they got there own place and was on ontario works for a while .
All i got out of that was see we made it within a few months after that she started to work and my son stayed with the baby .I didnt agree with that neither because my sould lhave been working as well but whatever would work out
for them i was ok with i was still there to help in anyway i could .
She was pretty sore after working about a weak or  so she asked my son to pick her up some hydromorphs of course
what does he do and ended up relapsing himself .They ended up splitting up over a misunderstanding and our
whole family including the baby suffers for it .
I talked to both of them and said i will allways be there for both of them and told my son he needs to be aswell
to a point and he was
Neighbours call the childrens aid about her living arrangement and my son went up there and cleaned her apartment so she wouldnt lose there son Once she found out he was seeing someone she got pissed and decided he wasnt seeing the baby untill after they went to court for custody as a mother i understood her point they got that all straightend out started talking again
whenever she found herself in any trouble she would call my son and he would go up to her place to help
Then rumours started and she took it upon herself to stop the visits on her own so of course we go back to court to see what we could do needless to say nothing so i went and payed a lawyer $1100.00 to get his accsess back and again got screwed so i fired him but my mistake was getting our evidence back first because now we get the run around and screwed out of seeing the little boy wich is now turning 4 yrs old
My son couldnt get legal aid because he lives at home with me and his dad and she wanted him to have supervised visits when he has his son so we agreed ok whatever and thats not good enough now shes wants supervised visits by a worker because she didnt like the fact his girlfriend was here and her kids were playing
This whole situation pisses me off because she has gotten everything she wants plus some starts this court thing doesnt show up and because shes the mother she can do whatever she wants where or when does the father get rights

Frusterated mom

My family consists of 3 boy 2 grandchildren 2 dogs & 2 cats
Durring my childrens younger years before becomming teenagers
life was great i wouldnt say perfect but cant complain.
They were very respectfull,happy and ready to help anyone in need
All our expectations from our children was to repect people including us as parents and
go to school to beable to take care of themselves in the future.
Thats what they did up untill high school .
What a huge turn around .
I knew life would change to a point but theres changed dramitcly
one
They decided to start smoking of course i tried to discourage it didnt get me anywhere
so i dealt with it but they were not allowed to smoke in the house .
However that wasnt enough the started expermenting with drugs and alchol
since all that has started its became so nerve wrecking allthough
i can be happy there alive because of the extreme 2 of them went
Its so hard to believe what drug addiction can hounestly do to a family .
I have tried everything to make my children happy and still do it just isnt enough
The 21 yr old and the 18 yr old is living at home at the moment untill I figure out what to do
my strength is allmost at nill
They dont go to school or work and its a chore to get them to do anything around here unless there paid
neither one of them pays board neither .
Theyhave become very disrectfull to both me and there father
All 3 of them are extremely jelous of each other believe me this is rediculous they have allways been treated the same and i still try to my 29 yr old is upset because i cant reply to his messages right away and that his brothers lives at home rediculouse things like that .The other 2 yells and curses me because there pissed off at whoever
For some reason they think i can fix the world ya it feels great if it was for the right reason but nothing i do is good enough for any of them .I have been going through my kids dru issues for the past 15 yrs and now im at the point i cant handle it any more
I would apreciate it if anyone could give me suggestions on what to do I have stopped handing out money and told them there gonna have to leave but it seems like they let it go in one ear and out the other
Anyways i will go for now this breaks my heart thinking about it
we went from a loving family that backs each other up to hate each other mom can deal with it .